I think Bond has a point ... and the one thing I thought of right off the bat was this ... there is a BIG difference ... she has not been with anyone else for 15 years has she? Not by the simple math that I could put together. I know when I discovered the EA/PA I was done ... like you.. then the emotions settled and I had to admit I still loved her, Love is a choice, you can only control you. All you can do now is get those emotions together and be smart about this.
Caliguy, that was a breath of fresh air. Big diff between a shared life of 15 years and her two prior marriages that lasted no more that 3, and less than 1.
When I exposed the EA (I'm calling it that from here on out because I don't have enough proof to the contrary), I mentioned to my wife that she had a track record (I know, horrible, bad, bad, Shakes)as she and I had seen each other, and kissed, prior to her divorce being final from 1st H. She said, "And what kind of man does that make you." I said, "A sinful, and much younger man when I did that." But, ultimately, I never followed through with building a relationship back then (1997). We reconnected in late 1999.
Wish now, that I had said, "What kind of man does that make your new man - who's older than either of us?"
Of course, I don't have to. She can figure that out on her own.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
