The only diff I see between me and most others is that this is W's 3rd D and her history definitely indicates that when she's done with someone (not just romantic Rs), she's DONE.
I think Bond has a point ... and the one thing I thought of right off the bat was this ... there is a BIG difference ... she has not been with anyone else for 15 years has she? Not by the simple math that I could put together. I know when I discovered the EA/PA I was done ... like you.. then the emotions settled and I had to admit I still loved her, Love is a choice, you can only control you. All you can do now is get those emotions together and be smart about this. It [censored] ... but if you still want the M ... don't make the mistakes that at this point would be SO easy to do ... you are here, and like all of us the EA/PA is a strong possibility, it will fade out like they all do, when it does ... its your opportunity to have put the work in on yourself and have become a better you ... for YOU
