The chocolateeyes thread was just horrible. Why would you send me there right now? I know you had a reason - I'm just a little loopy and dumbfounded. You have my trust, so please explain what I am currently unable to see.
Shakspr
Which was horrible? Or were they both horrible? I posted them because his sitch was desperate, really bad, and you were asking if it was possible to recover from your current sitch.
ChocolateEyes (now Starsky) KNEW it was over. She was acting out in ways worse than your W seems to be. He did what you did... tried everything in his power to help his W and save his M. Then he discovered (like you) that she wasn't being truthful. He reached that point of seeming no return.
In his anger he occasionally lost it but always brought it back to being in a detached sense of control over his reactions to whatever she did.
And then it turned around! There were a couple of stumbles but they ultimately made it. And if they hadn't made it, ChocolateEyes/Starsky KNEW he would've done fine. It would've hurt like hell, sure, but he was gonna make it.
I found it heartening when I was low, when I KNEW my sitch was over. So I am totally caught off guard by the idea that it could have the reverse reaction on you. So sorry! Forgive me.
On the plus side, I am so glad you got some sleep.
M:54, H:55 T:33, M:27 12/13 BD: EA 01/14 BD: PA, H leaves 03/14 H & OW break up 05/14 H says he will file for D 08/14 H initiates D 09/14 H wants to R 12/14 Still bungling our way through R
