There are other websites/forums out there that support exposing and the other things you mentioned. The Divorce Busting forum does not support it. I believe Michele even has a letter on the board about it.
If you follow those other forums that teach differently from the DBing way, you will certainly become very confused if you try to blend it all together. It is better for you to decide which one you want to join and stick with that one. Not all books agree on the same subject or tell it with same viewpoint. Not all books have the advice that you should follow in your particular stitch. Surely you realize this, don't you? Same is true for the many forums on the Internet. Why would you expect everyone in the world to agree on what one should do? We have no control over advice given on another web site.
From time to time, you may hear some of our members sound as if they are giving conflicting advice, but we are "suppose" to follow what is laid out in the DB material. That is why it is important to read the DB books. For now, it would probably be better for you not gather advice from different web sites. I have read books that are very similar to the DB books, and sometimes I forget which ones used a particular term, etc., but I remembered they matched in principles.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
