Shining's posting is spot on. We discussed some of this "sex" business back in July on one of your threads. You might want to go back and re-read your thread about your questions on sex. If I recall, it was the thread that I encouraged you to go get checked and to practice safe sex.
Shining is correct...it is your decision as to whether you want to continue ML or not...but keep in mind, if he is still in an affair, be it EA or PA, it's cake eating and yes, it's keeping your emotions on the "hook" and you can't detach enough w/this going on unless you can figure out a way to do so w/o expectations.
Again, please protect yourself, no matter what he's told you. It's better to be safe and smart than later on have a gift that keeps on giving pop up during an exam.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
