Hey-thanks again all for your response. it doesn't feel right in any way as even if we don't get back together I wouldn't want to hurt her-I had been advised this is a wimps way out and being the bigger guy doesn't work. If that is the case I would have to accept that because its the way I have been brought up-I won't cause her any trouble in work.
You are a definition of a Nice Guy. Of course you love your wife, she isn't doubting that, she's just not in love with you. So, identify why she feels that way by finding out about who you really are. You are too Nice and she doesn't respect you right now. In addition to DB I recommend reading NMMNG so you can understand the mistakes you are making from the way you were raised (as you admitted above).
Take control of your life, the sooner you do that the better. This is a good opportunity to better yourself and that doesn't happen by contacting your W. Stick to 180 and NC. If she wants you she will come and when/if she does you better be a better version of yourself or else she will keep walking away.
Good luck.
Last edited by AWAW; 10/01/1408:13 PM.
M:35 WW:32 Dated 8 years M: 2 BD 6/12/14 S: 7/29/14 No kids Reconcile: 9/25/14 Moved back: 10/7/14
