Divorced and moving out.....still hopeful

[NewB3]

It does hurt to not be able to tell her I love her and have it said in return. tis why I have not said it in awhile. Although a few weeks ago, I reminded her that I do love her and am here for her.
Funny that in C last night, her last session with me that she mentioned hoping we could be very good friends. She is here for me, all I have to do is ask. I told her and C that this seemed weird to me, because she has always offered her help and advice unwarranted, so why change that now. She mentioned boundaries and trying to respect my new life. Well, I said that I will not ask for help or her input every time. Should she see that I might need it, she should offer. Although I do know I stand back and let her deal with her situations and am there, but only offer help when she has given great efforts. I then offer and she lets me. I handle it and move on, not expecting anything in return. I am just building some last minute "points" in her mind for future reference. Surely she will remember how I have handled this situation all the way until the end.
So, in C I mentioned that S11 has not said much, but has trouble thinking of a life w/o her at home when he comes to visit from ex. It was mentioned by C, that she be at my new home when he arrives next Friday. She looked at me and said, "well, if I am welcome past the threshold of the front door. I do not want to invite myself." I told her if she was at the front door, that she might not be let in, that is for guests. Family and friends come to the side door. That comment got a smile and I followed with telling the C that having her over may be the only way I can get her to eat a good meal. (I have always cooked good meals for her). Another smile. So, I want her to feel welcome to approach me, unwarranted, but will go dark once I move.
Remember this, a dog on a leash may run from you at the park if they get loose. Should you chase, they will run faster. If you turn and go the other direction, just as fast and look like you are having fun, they will notice. Once they see this they will turn and run back to you. However, make sure your fun is for YOU and not a plot to get them back, or it will not hold them long.