Thanks, Starsky- I will stay the course. Sent a gentle “mediators are available these dates” email to W- she took a while to respond and came back with “Let's talk this weekend. I would like to think we will not need them.” So seems we are on the verge of R talk. Recall I’m travelling so this is all txt at this point and we won’t have a chance to talk before the weekend. I think I am going to respond with “I thought we agreed mediation was the preferred course- I’m not sure how delay and us talking more will help, but as the first date is a few weeks out we can discuss when I get back.”

Now I have to prepare for my response when she raises the R this weekend. Haven’t done much reading on the boards about setting/enforcing ground rules for discussing R but I need to understand how I best set boundaries/ground rules around NC and transparency while also not turning the “breakthrough” discussion into a demand/negotiation session.

Last edited by Bart42; 10/01/14 06:41 PM.
Me: 45 W:43
M: 15, T:21
2 Kids- S-14, D-12
A Started: 10/2013
Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014
A changing, not ending
Start DB'ing 9/2014
Same house, same bed