Just want to make one small change to the otherwise-excellent observations by Eric, above:
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Personally, I think it more about YOUR fear of losing him than it is about finding your own happiness. ONE PERSON having the control in a R is NOT healthy. To me, it seems like you are content to sit around and wait for the crumbs that he is willing the throw your way. That IMO, is not healthy. I believe that a good R is one where the control can shift between partners – with both people’s needs being met. A give and take if you will. You see from where I sit, I see the same pattern of behavior in you. You want more, he says no, you push, he then give you a crumb and tells you that you just need to wait, *you give to us here multiple explanations and excuses and point out using WORDS all of the new insights you now have as to why this all EVENTUALLY won't be good enough for you, all while* you settle for the crumbs
