Hey-thanks again all for your response.

I have read DB & am working my way through DR. I had been advised that mass exposure would help lift the fog quicker-it doesn't feel right in any way as even if we don't get back together I wouldn't want to hurt her-I had been advised this is a wimps way out and being the bigger guy doesn't work. If that is the case I would have to accept that because its the way I have been brought up-I won't cause her any trouble in work.like I have said previously, we are still on very very good terms. We did exposé to out family & friends which caused no ill feeling at all so going to stick with that.

Her mom called today to say my wife has been very down since she seen me last week. This makes me sad but also impatient. I had considered contacting her today because of this and the fact she is missing me but the info I have gained through reading suggests this isn't the best thing to do.

Patience the best approach at this stage?