MrBond... yes, that has been a thought of mine as well, I vowed to love him "for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others 'til death do us part" he also vowed the same including the very important "forsaking all others" but he does not seem to care about all of that now. I WANT so badly to stand, and not just because of my faith (although that is a big part of why) but also because I, too, believe in the sanctity of our vows and for our children and family until and also because I love him so deeply.

I guess my confusion lies in the idea that maybe I didn't really know him at all, ever, and that he has always been a totally different person than I thought. I guess I'm afraid I have been living a lie, for more than just the last 1 1/2 years but for 23 years. Do I want to keep my vows to THAT guy? I'm not so sure about that. I deserve better than that. My kids deserve better than that.

I'm not even sure I could ever find out, for sure, if he's a serial cheater. I'm just struggling with the idea if I should even pursue that idea at all.

Me- 40 H- 41
S8, D5, S4
M 19 y T 23
Bomb drop 6/2013
H asked for/filed for D 9/2014
22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together