When I wrote my original response I didn't understand your financial situation and I wouldn't have said what I said if I had. I'm a SAHM so I'm sensitive to financial vulnerability but I've never had so much as one Tiffany box because I'm rational and would not want jewelry at the expense of my family's well-being.
What you were doing by paying for all that was not making sure your family's NEEDS were being met. Nobody needs Tiffany. There were other motives going on there. What does it say about your opinion of your wife if you thought buying her affection was an effective or desirable thing to do? It doesn't sound like she's been a partner in your financial goals.
You've gotten all the good advice you need already so I'm not going to add more, but I really think you should re-examine the thinking that got you to this place and what kind of relationship you would like to build wih your partner (whoever she may be) in the future.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
