New here, my fairytale gone wrong

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I guess what *might* change is my desire to stand. I am a Christian and that is the utmost importance to me so between that and my still intense love for H and hope that our R can be reconciled I want to stand (and for my kids, of course). But, as he has been unfaithful, I am released from the bonds of this M if I want to be and can remarry one day if I wish and still be ok with God. I'm not saying I want that, I'm just not sure that if I find out that he has been unfaithful all along maybe he's not the guy I've always thought he was and maybe I would not desire to reconcile so badly. Yes, it could be more painful, for sure. I'm just not sure I really wanna reconcile with a guy who is more than going through a MLC, he has a major character flaw if he is a serial cheater (and by default then, liar).

CA (my state) is a no fault state but he currently lives in PA and filed for there, it has both fault and no-fault options but to do no-fault you have to be separated for 2 years (which he is lying that we have been and I may need to contest to protect my interest in his business as well as his interest in the car loan he had me get back in June). I might tell him to withdraw filing in PA and file in CA (as he just wants to get it done fast, and he can since I live here) but I'm waiting to talk to the lawyer tomorrow before I reveal that info to him.