Dealing with WAW part 7

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Why did you go against your lawyers' advice?

Because I am a nice guy and thought I was doing the right thing.

Why did you not negotiate fair payment of the debts?

Negotiate with who? Her or the lenders?

What did you think you would gain by doing these things, and what is your motivation in changing them now?

Less stress. Less frustration. Less negative feelings towards W.

Why haven't you taken care of your own needs?

Because my family has always come first. Once their needs are covered, then I will worry about mine.

None of this seems consistent with DB, neither the generosity nor the abrupt turn around.

You are probably right. But what I have been doing has not produced any positives. It has been cake eating at worse, prolonging the inevitable at best.

I'm sorry I had lost track of your financial situation over the course of your thread and didn't understand the change you had proposed. But the circumstances you describe make no sense at all. Has Mr.Bond commented here before?

I hate to speak for MrBond without 100% certainty, but if my memory serves me, he advocated not paying as well. I hope if he reads this he will chime in. But I have posted similar in the past and it has been a split house here on the DB forum as to the course of action I should take. I get it how some people who are stay at home spouses might be defensive towards the approach I am looking at. This is not a punitive action where I am sitting in my waterfront mansion sipping 50 year old scotch laughing at my W who is near homeless on the street and my kids in rags. More like I am the homeless guy in rags while my W is living a life I wish I was.