To DB or not to DB, is it really a question?

[Shakspr]

I thought you said that she was having a PA also? What confirmation did you find?

And to be honest, you haven't experienced anything different than what everyone here has. It took 3 years before my W even started to talk to me. Same as the majority of the people who have saved their M here.

Did you save it post-D?

I implied PA from a group of texts that said "I think we did well only giving in once" and "I'd love to have a baby with you" and "we don't do quickies well, do we?"

She denies that she has slept with him or even seen him yet. It doesn't really matter though, does it? Affair fog, and as labug said, this A is a symptom of the deeper underlying problems more than it is a proximate cause. It just seems to drive a nail in things, doesn't it? Like me, a guy she has past history with going back to high school. Not a fling.

The only diff I see between me and most others is that this is W's 3rd D and her history definitely indicates that when she's done with someone (not just romantic Rs), she's DONE.