Dealing with WAW part 7

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Hey guys...thanks for the replies. Lisa is on par. I have never and will never deny my kids anything they need...regardless of where they are staying at the time. I currently pay for 100% of the kids' needs. Clothes, schools, health insurance. I pay for storage cost for all of our property still being stored in 2 locations in our old state. I pay all medical for the kids, as well as recently added W to my own insurance. The only thing W pays for in regards to the kids is food for them when they are with her.

In our old state, the threshold for her being entitled to alimony was 7 years of marriage. We were married 6 years and 2 months when she filed. It was also a no fault state. Odds are, had we ended up in court, it was possible a judge could have ruled for rehabilitative alimony due to the nearness to the 7 year threshold. In our new state, the threshold is 10 years. It is NOT a no fault state. Affairs are factored in when determining alimony. My new state attorneys tell me that due to the fact we are over 3 years away from the threshold AND she had an affair, there is pretty much no chance she will get a dime in alimony. Child support has to be paid by both parents. Both new and old state has a formula based on income and each parent is expected to throw a % of that into the child support pot. Whatever that is, it is.

The reality is my W is currently living a better lifestyle than I am. The money I send her I agreed to prior to our S. Then she filed D. I backed off of it for half a month. Then out of guilt, sense of obligation, fear of burning bridges, or whatever, I began to pay. Lawyers in both states advised me against it. New state lawyer wishes I would quit paying anything right away. In a sense, this has become a cheese less tunnel. She is quick to ask, and never around to acknowledge or thank. I have overdrawn my own account on purpose to make sure she got what she asked for when she asked for it. It is her smug sense of entitlement which I guess has irked me long enough. As I said, I do not agree with what she is doing, so why voluntarily fund it? Maybe she will rush to a legal remedy. Maybe she will be just fine. I got a pretty thick dose of 'I will never be able to live in your area to let the kids go to the good school unless you pay for a place for me to live and a new car'. I refused, and yet she still managed to move down here and buy new tvs, furniture, clothes, jewelry, and other goodies, all of which we had sitting around doing nothing and readily available for her to use. She is not starving, and neither are the kids.