We also agreed that a bi weekly session would be much less pressure than weekly. Counselor said that if I'm willing to do whatever it takes, then why not do a seperation even if it against my normal thinking .....I explained how I thought we could do it and when she asked my wife how she felt, she agreed but thought it still needed details worked out. My wife has been feeling like she is always on the defense. Which she kind of is because I'm ready to move forward and she is hesitant. I'm pulling back and giving her space.....In past I just kept pressuring her. This is a small 180 for me but is needed. We then discussed the need to have self value and work on each other as individuals and get that down first. Like I said , the counselor was confused but my wife and I both left with some confidence and in agreement. I'll take what I can get and use this time to build on me. I will post more at work when I can type on my computer. ...on my phone right now. If I were to guess, I feel the counselor thinks we should split because she feels it would make my wife find out quick if she truly wants to be alone. But that's my theory.
me-42 w-33 d-3 together-6 m-4yr 6/1/14-w check out 6/15/14-EA? 8/1/14-mc 9/1/14-IDLY-started DBing 9/15/14-w suggest separation 10/17/14 wife is done 12/13/2014 - wife move out me file 1/1/15
