She said you were "attritional" in arguments. So she meane you wore her out with arguing, right?
Coupled with some other comments you made, there is a term that sums up what I think you are trying to say but not coming right out & saying.
The word is "Bully".
Is that the word she'd use, if she were here talking to us & did not think you'd hear?
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