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[25yearsmlc]

Detachment is done first & foremost for our self protection. When we are detached, We obsess less, we feel better, & thus, we behave more in alignment with our DB goals. AND GAL is mandatory for Detachment.

For GAL suggestions, let me mention some of what I did when we lived in the interior of Alaska, even in the winter.

Oh, btw, I had 3 kids including a newborn my first winter there, (so you know I don't want to hear about how You are or 'too busy' to GAL.

INERTIA is the greatest enemy to GAL.

Overcome that, & you'll be well on your way to a happier more fulfilling life.

IMO, the more you overcome inertia, the better your R's will be with all people, including your w.

The List:

I volunteered at a battered women's shelter.

I coached a girl's softball team two summers (my older D was on it).

I was on the board of directors for Wrestling ( our son wrestled).

I auditioned for community theater, met some fun creative people. I got cast, too.

SIDE NOTE: *** (Almost nothing can occupy your mind and squeeze out obsessive thought of WAS, more than having to learn lines/movement ON a stage AND OR in front of an audience. I even forgot how much my back hurt b/c of a surgery! Yeah, doing theater really does get your mind off everything/everyone else, even if only for a few hours.

If you HATE being onstage, (& don't wish to overcome that fear...) consider doing Crew work, e.g.. lights, sound, props, etc. Because those folks help out a LOT too, and it can also be very preoccupying. Since many others are counting on you for the show, you just can't wallow well, when that is happening. You will also meet FUN people, NEW people who know nothing of your personal turmoil and that my friend, can be a very good thing! Okay, moving along...)***

I did stand up comedy (and yes, I still do it). I did a whole set once on a MLCs at the Hollywood Improv. It went very well.

I learned to cross country ski, became better at it. I got better at downhill skiing too, and that is exciting enough and requires enough "focus" to help stop obsessing, plus it's good to be OUTDOORS even in Alaska. Helps the PMA!!

I Learned to hunt big game, to deep sea fish, & I got better at shooting.

Took a self defense course (helped me feel safer in the wilds up there).

I learned to use a snowmobile ("snow machine" to Alaskans)
I loved riding it.

Learned to fly a plane, and I got a pilot's license. VERY fun, nice sense of achievement too.

Went skydiving. Loved it so much I did it again. I also plan on doing it again, soon!

Edited a book on a topic for which I had no prior experience. (The book ended up on the Best Seller's List. Who knew?)

I Worked out 3-4 times a week, and really did get in excellent physical shape. Looking good made a world of difference to me. I found a work out partner and began socializing after the work outs. Helps the PMA.

(Plus I'd just had our last child and needed to lose the baby weight. It was not easy to do, let alone in the dark, deathly cold of their long LONG winters).

Saw a therapist and for some months, went on ADs. They both helped PMA.

Took a pottery class (very odd activity for me to do, but I liked it a lot & "met" a new side of myself).

Joined the Officer's Wives club after 15 years of active duty and ignoring them.

**(I only wish I had joined sooner! Met two women who are life long friends to this day.)

Joined a writer's group, met NEW creative people in my area.

Took a class in Conversational French

Took a class in Italian cooking -ate better tasting food & learned about another culture.

Joined a "Poker" club (with limits on the amount you can lose)
Agree that I learned with a different side of my brain, met those who are different than the types of people I normally meet. Really good to expand those comfort zones.


There is more, but I just wanted to suggest to you a few things you can do that do Not cost a lot.

Other than pilot training, most of these ^^ activities were free, or quite cheap.
I'm sure you can think of other things.

Please jot down 10 things you have at one time or another, or 39405 times, wanted to do OR considered doing. Include travel.

You do not have to commit to ANY of them! Just jot them down here...and then we'll go from there.

Good luck!