You came to us here because you were looking for a long-term, monogamous commitment from him, which for 20 years he was some combination of "unable" and "unwilling" to give. Through your dialogue here, I believe you also came to believe that cementing your business deal was also something you needed.
I don't see ANY of that happening, and what's worse I still see him DANGLING all of those things, that he's come to know are important to you, and you still allow him to string you along and you make excuses for him every step of the way.
On the other hand, you also seem happy with the arrangement, so as I've said before WHY DON'T YOU JUST GO FOR IT, and stop pretending it's not enough for you.
Honestly, these circle convos are wearying. Why best yourself up? Life is too short, and however dysfunctional your little dance looks to the rest of us looking in, it does seem to work for the two of you, on both a business and a personal level. So just go for it, and stop with all the analyzing to death.
