I don't think an apology is a good nudge. If that's your motivation, scrap everything I said.
But this could be a great time to brainstorm ways to change your pattern. Or you could follow Labug's pattern (and Wonka's too, if memory serves) and see what happens if you detach a little further.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15