I understand what you are saying. I'm not sure. (I've been holding off on scheduling another coaching phone call, but it might be time for that).
On the one hand, this kind of gesture does go against DB principles. I totally get that. I have been nearly perfect at NOT pursuing for months and months. Is that working? In a way, yes. In all this time, all we've accomplished is a draft co-parenting agreement. All our finances are still joint. We haven't even been to mediation in a couple of months at least. So perhaps he is still conflicted.
I know that part of the reason is that he's under a lot of stressed and overwhelmed with life. It's like, he's too busy in his new "improved" life to divorce me!
On the other hand, my not pursuing or reaching out to him at all has also not gotten me very far. I wonder if a little nudge might be needed to at least get him to have a conversation with me to assess where we are. Where are we?? In a mature, grown up relationship with a child involved, do I get to have that kind of conversation with him?
But I've been in total limbo for a long time. Although he's indicated that he wants to continue
