I understand that, but I've also learned that I cannot control my W's behavior. I've made it clear to her that I do not support the A, in case she thought otherwise (which I'm pretty sure she doesn't anyway).

I do not encourage her bad behavior, but at the same time, from her PoV, we are "separated" and she's free to do whatever she wants.

M: 15 years
BD: 6/25/14
EA/PA: starts 5/14/14
11/30/14 - A ends
5/15/15 - D is finalized.
11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!