Hi ladies and gents, I could be wrong but I don't think pilot is saying he won't take care of his family or his obligations but that he won't keep paying all her bills, as in her personal credit card or whatever things she wants just to entertain herself. I'm not a lawyer and I don't know the laws in that state but I don't think one spouse has to pay all bills of the other? Just enough to cover kid stuff and living expenses right?
Personally it would irk me very much if my spouse was living it up and I had to pay for it! I wouldn't! My WAH is indeed living it up but our finances are separate. I wouldn't expect he would pay for my waxing appointment or my bar tab and I wouldn't want to pay for his new shoes or dinner dates with OW.
I think that is what you are saying, right pilot?
But it would probably benefit you pilot to make a support agreement with her so that you know what you have to pay and she understands what she will be getting. Like Maybell said then things are clear and you know you are doing what is required under the law, and have something to point to when she comes asking for extras. And perhaps it will be a shock to her to have to budget.
