Continuing DBing after the affair

[PeterV2]

Yes, she's one to hold grudges. For a long time. Took her almost 20 years to ease up on her first hubby. Mind you he was an alcoholic wife beater, so I don't blame her for that one.
But she doesn't let things go like she should.

Every time I suggest we move forward and stop dredging up the past, she feels I'm pressuring her to reconcile, which is really what I'm doing. I hate this limbo. Maybe once the RH is sold we'll be in a better position. At least then she'll have no excuse for not moving back home. Still she may choose to just get an apartment at that point. She has talked about that.