It was tough to read your latest interaction with your W and her perceived "scorekeeping" about you perusing dating sites while she was engaged in a full-on affair with the OM. She needs a slap on the upside of her head!
Does your W normally hold grudges for a long time? Is that typical of her?
As for selling RH, I think it is a solid move in the right direction. With the stress off from RH, W cannot blame you any longer for 'forcing' her to stay at RH and continue to manage it. I'd be interested in seeing how your sitch unfolds after the sale of the RH.
