Im vague on some of the details as my memory is very different to how my W seems to recall it. Or in the case of what I said on the day her dad died I genuinely have no idea. I know I was in a bad mood (and i know there is not an adequate excuse) and said something awful but I couldn't tell you what. I do know it wasn't anything negative about her dad though.
I can see where you are going and i wasnt that positive to be round. I do however really feel I had to put a lot if effort into playing with the kids because she flat out ignored them while she browsed eBay or FB (this was a really regular occurrence). Whenever there was a choice between playing with the kids or doing a chore she would always insist on doing the chore. It means now I have a really good R with both my kids.
I see the difference on the Don't vs the more positive do with the 180s.
On the GAL front I'm not doing great as everything I've done has been about reconnecting with the old rather than something new. Im going to have to think of something there.
I've not read the 5LL (that's another book winging its way from Amazon) I do know that I respond to touch and that my W likes to be put on a pedestal.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
