too late?

[jim0987]

So the complaints I've managed to ascertain (In no particular order)

- I put the kids and my work before her
- I wouldn't 'let' her be a SAHM
- I didn't help enough with the nursery drop offs and pick ups
- I was never there for her emotionally in the way she wanted. I needed to be told what to do.
- I left all the laundry to her
- I didn't sweep the kitchen floor or load the dishwasher as often as her
- I make lots of sarcastic comments which she was hurt by
- she felt we always had to do things my way
- she has described me as 'attritional' in arguments


So the 180s I can pick out from this
- do the laundry
- make sure the kitchen/house is kept tidy
- no more sarcastic comments
- don't rise to any arguments
- doing around half nursery trips.

After that it gets more difficult to work out the right things to do.