still holding on - 4

[u-turn]

Thanks again PeterV2 - I am going to do this. I know we use to talk about everything - all the time. That comfort level has been gone for a while though and it almost seems awkward to try again with the elephant in the room. But I will. I don't really need to research what her likes used to be - I've known her for a long time.

Though her interests have changed since our problems began. Many of her new interests are in tune with OM and not me though - fitness and competitive racing and her work. It is hard for me to talk about these things without thinking of the situation and without thinking that I am fueling her thoughts of the OM - but that would be mind reading
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I have probably been weakest on providing #2 that for her needs^^^. I do feel and I don't think that she would deny that I was strong on the other 4 needs.

Thanks again for keeping up with me. I wish you luck!!!