To DB or not to DB, is it really a question?

[MrBond]

Got it. Okay, the most important thing to do is to read the WHOLE book. Too often people get the books and only read the parts that they THINK just applies to them. You need to read it all to get a whole picture of how your WAS thinks.

Now, as for your sitch, it is VERY important to not take a slash and burn attitude with your W right now. I know it's difficult, especially when there's an OM in the picture, but if you start doing that it will only create resentment and anger in you which you will show towards your W (no matter how much you try to mask it) and won't do your ultimate goal of saving your M and your family, any good.

I've been in your shoes, so I know how it is. But now is the time when you need to be the strongest and not spiteful.