It really looks like she responds better when you pull back a little more. Besides, living your life the way you want to live it is going to be good for you. It will give you the confidence that everything will be ok, with or without her.
BTW, a side effect of this is that it will make you attractive. The more new friends, new interests, new happiness you've found will intrigue her to think what she is missing out on. Of course you would prefer life with her. But why keep falling in the same hole when you know exactly where it is, walk around it.
