WAW still at home 12 weeks after asking for D

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Cadet,

to sum it up, shes going to deed everything over to me. In return I am going to pay her a lump sum of half the equity in the properties. After taking out realtors fees, capital gains, and conveyance fees It is NOT a large amount of money. She will be debt free and have a decent downpayment for a home if she choses to buy. I will have all the debt and all the assets. Other than the 2 I have to sell to get the cash.

In order to get the cash settlment we have to sell 2 of the 5 properties. They have been listed since August 1. If they do not sell by 6 months from the day the dissolution is final I will begin paying her on a 10 year installment plan.

We have already set up a trust, controlled by the both of us. We placed the farm ground and all the equipment in the trust. It will belong to the boys when the youngest turns 23.
we have dual control over the asets. Meaning that it cannot be sold or traded without both signatures.

We have agreed on CS even. She makes a little more than I do. We each have the boys the same amount of time. She is providing ins. (50 for my half), paying for lunches (50 my half). I am going to kick in an extra 100 per month for my half of clothes and shoes since she has always done almost all the clothes shopping.

I am paying for sports stuff and she is paying for school and school supplies.
We each get 1 child for tax purposes. I took the oldest so that deduction will end 3 years sooner for me. I took one of her student loans (biggest payment, smallest balance) and she took one.
She gave me the camper. Its 2 years old and has some equity. I figured we would have to sell it because I could not afford to refinance it to get her equity out. She told me to keep it because we love to camp. since she was good about that I agreed to give her half of todays equity if I ever sold it.
She gets her personal checking account, I keep the gold bars we bought 5 years ago. She gets her car, I get my truck. equal value, both paid for. I get my 401k she gets her strs. We have a mutual fund account in the boys names for college. That stays in place and we are now (as of today) both contributing to it from our own accts.
She keeps her rings, and earrings, I get the coin collection I inherited from my grandmother.
Last but not least, and I am NOT kidding, I get the white towels and she is taking the green ones.

Honestly, its pretty sad that 2 people can figure out a complicated mess like this and have NO issues, but cant figure out how to keep a 15 yr marriage together.