To DB or not to DB, is it really a question?

[Shakspr]

Well, that's over. Nothing has really changed except I am reexamining my options. She gave me the "I'm never coming back to you, I don't want to try, I don't want you, I have no feelings for you."

All signs, post-confrontation, seem to point to an EA that is on hold because both felt guilty...but she didn't offer me her new phone and confirmed that she is still texting the guy. Said it all happened (is happening!) because she is emotionally vulnerable. She is ashamed of what she did, and repeated frequently, that it was very wrong.

The man that I am, and the man who believes in his family, won't give up his children to a woman capable of these things. Who won't try. Who finally acknowledged her part in all this due to the confrontation.

All I can tell you is this: I told her that the EA means nothing to me, that of course she has no interest in me or reconciliation when someone else is clouding her thoughts. I basically said, if you must go, go. I let you go. But I am not going to allow you to take my children from their home into a situation that we both know is not God's will. (I realize that makes some of you cringe. Not sorry, guys.)

I hope to negotiate a separation with her that is similar to what it was going to be, only with me as the primary custodian. Give her what she wants. But no more doormat.

No change after sep? With me DB'g all the way? I sign D without a whimper.