WAW + divorce filed, Becoming-V2 - part 1

[B-V2]

Any thoughts by anybody on this and my earlier writings?

Reading quickly what you wrote, and I may have missed something.

Do you think you can FIX this?|
Cause the two of you are now on separate journeys.
You can FIX YOU but not HER.

25mlc like to say make yourself into a person that only a FOOL would leave, those are the changes that you need to make.
There are no guarantees that your marriage will be restored.

The only thing I can say is the LBS gets to choose in the end, and if you have not yet choosen then it is not yet the end.

Keep reading and posting

Thank you for your follow up reply Cadet, much appreciated. And yes: I will keep reading and posting.

I knew and know that I can only fix and improve myself and thereby Becoming-V2, and that is what I am working on (I had actually just realize one part that I needed to change on the day of the BD, see my 1st posting). My changes are structural for me and for the rest of my life, not just so to win her back.

Our marriage as it was is now over and there is no looking back on restoring that as it had become: only going forward. In the past months I have been asked the real tough question: if I would not have changed for the next 5 years would I have still liked myself as I slowly had become. And my answer was: no. So from that point of view I'm guessing that I was myself in some sort of fog too for the past 1 to 2 years.

And so I am here for the reason as I have not yet choosen to give up on a potential future relationship between us, and I still need to do more work on me so to become a person that only a fool would leave. And the future will unfold itself, and I will be OK no matter what.