In limbo, need to figure out next steps (thread #5

[shodan]

The posts about God and prayer have really helped me. I am turning my W and her ways over to God. I cannot control her and her actions. All I can do is move forward, GAL and detach. While I want my M to work and for my W to come back to "reality" to work on our M, I also am not going to wait around for her. I believe that we can have an amazing M if we worked at it. She needs to believe this herself and my logic about the kids, our shared history, etc. will not win over her emotions.

So does this mean I am going to file? not yet. I will use the time to find myself, the old Shodan before I was married. I am reconnecting with friends, traveling more for work and finding new hobbies. At the end of this process, if my W is there and wants to work on this, great. If not, then I will be prepared for what will come, the inevitable.

I have done some research on dating after D with kids. It does not look so bad out there. While I would rather date my W, at some point I need to officially move on.