I've had one consult with a DB coach (Dotty-wonderful Dr. Phil "kick me in the butt" attitude)which has been very helpful. But I have been reading and trying to practice (and often failing) DB for about 9 months now. I too am tempted to move on (and say so to my SO which is losing it's credibility) and begin dating. Then i have to remind myself patience patience patience. The loneliness-in touch, in interaction, in bed-is crushing. So, Kevin, I guess I'm just commiserating with you. But like you, every time I detach, along comes my SO wondering what's wrong. I'm 7 days "sober" of talking about the R and it's been noticed. My goal is, seriously, 6 months unless SO brings it up (did once this week and it helped us both.

Hang in there. Dottie said this to me and I've really hung on to it "dont say anything you don't mean and don't do anything you don't want". If you are hoping for your W to come back, do you really want to date?
Good luck.

Kelly Favorite quote from DB boards: You can't talk your way out of situation you behaved yourself into.