Kevin,

I wouldn't say that you dating is the solution...sounds to me like you did it in retaliation of your W's date.

Did you ever think that your W does this...going on dates and telling you about them...just to get a rise out of you? Just to see if you will get jealous or something?

DOn't ever do it...show her you are jealous that is. That will only cause her to continue to WANT to date. DOn't ask me why but your W strikes me as the type to get a kick out of making you jealous.

You are still givng her too much power. YOUR dating will give her even more. SHE WILL use it against you, regardless of whether she has been encouraging you to do so or not. This is a NO win sitch basically.

Your not dating was actually a boon in your favor. She couldn't assuage any guilt that way. I can just IMAGINE what she is going to tell her friends when she founds out you have actually gone on one...."Kev is one to talk...tald me he would NEVER go out with anyone else, I was the only one he wanted, blah,blah, blah...so much for what HE SAYS! Ha, I don't feel so bad now ! "

Get the picture??

Hugz,
Zoo

"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm." - Mahatma Gandhi