Did she tell you to leave this last time, or did you make the decision to get out?

I usually read the backstory before I ever post, but somehow missed the 2008 date you joined. It seems a lot of damage has been done on both sides.

How many times over the years have you left to stay a while (nights or weeks) away from your W?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!