kevin, absorb what Zoo has told you. You haven't so far...and you keep getting rejected. She is pushing your buttons because she knows what works. You need to remember that everytime you choose to not DB, your chances of not getting divorced get slimmer and slimmer...she takes you completely for granted. And I will say this...deep down, I would bet she wants someone who is strong and stands up for himself, kevin. Most women want that...and you CAN be that person if you put your mind to it.