"She had no interest in going out with me even if I tried was always busy with her friends . "
Surely it couldn't have always been like this. When did things change?
"Nope was never allowed even if I did Ask . I was told several times they were her friends and not mine ."
So you never hung out with her friends?
it's very easy to confuse people on these boards. Thankfully South, your screename is more memorable than most.
I think we feel confused b/c you, South, are acting conflicted.
A lot of what you say is as if you're mystified as to what went wrong in your m. Other remarks indicate you do know what went wrong, and it's Not just one small thing. It's several things, some of which are quite important.
The more you play the "what happened TO Me?" Card, the more stuck you will be in Learned Helplessness. Get yourself Unstuck. Only YOU can. And go from this day forward
BECAUSE UNLESS you are processing an insight and deciding to Change a behavior of yours (that you realize is a flaw/pattern of yours),
there is no reason to wallow in the past.
When yo du study a behavioral problem, choose a solution and then go and DO that..."Execute" the solution.
Otherwise just stay in the moment (which mandates you letting go of the past slights real and imagined) and take care of TODAY
Time for action, not wallowing. Make sense?
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
