I hereby resolve to make a strong attempt to take at least two weeks to use up this new thread. With great gratitude for the many people who kindly participate in my threads and have helped me move along on this journey.
Owing to a trick of the call-waiting, my IC got hold of me today and spent 14 minutes and 20 seconds begging and pleading for me to come back, offered me a free session, denying that he'd said the stuff about my husband, backtracking like crazy on my moving on and finding love again, claiming to have misread the infamous hug, etc.
I held VERY FIRM for 14 minutes and 20 seconds and did not waver at all. I told him that there was no way I could close myself into a small room with him again and feel good about myself. I said I had taken time to consider my feelings and my decision and that I felt very confident about it. He still was nagging. It was kind of awful.
He would not take no for an answer. Finally I said "This is how I feel. If I change my mind then I know how to reach you. But as things are, I absolutely can not go back." And that he finally accepted.
I feel STRONG.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
It must have been awkward at first but you turned it around and rocked it!!! Good for you! You stood up for yourself and definitely have made him think about his behaviors for the future. YOU did that, Maybell. You did it!!!
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
