I have spoken in the past about how I still pay certain bills for W. I have bitched and moaned privately, and here, but I have always paid them when she asked for the money. My thinking/mood now is the next time she asks to simply say no. If she asks for details, I will be honest, and say I no longer will participate in this life she has chosen. I do not agree with it, and therefore, I will not contribute to it. If she wants to continue the path she has chosen, good luck, but you are on your own.

FWIW we have no separation agreement. I have simply grown tired of her expecting me to drop everything and take care of things for her and never a single 'thank you' or acknowledgement.

Any thoughts or opinions?


Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16