Continuing DBing after the affair

[PeterV2]

We'll she brought up the "my behaviour" issue tonight. Someone told her that I was on the internet looking for sex. I asked her when this allegedly happened. She said January.
I confirmed it. Yes, on Dec 30 I had decided that I was getting divorced. I gave my W one more chance by asking if she was going to spend New Years Eve with me but she declined and spent it with the OM. So that sealed it for me. I stopped all contact. I worked for 2 days on the division of assets and drafting the separation agreement, I started my new life, I made an appointment with a divorce lawyer and I went on line and joined some dating sites: eHarmony, AdultFriendFinder and F**kbook. I admitted this to her. Yes I needed to get laid.
Then on Jan 4 after 5 days of NC, W comes in the door and says I think we could work this out. She said she was going NC with OM. So I thought I would give her another chance. I cancelled my lawyer appointment and we started an on-line relationship building course. I cancelled all my on-line dating subscriptions and committed to fixing the M.
Well within a week or 2 she was back in touch with OM. And the lies and deceit escalated.
So now she is disgusted at me for looking for sex on line that first week of January.
She said OM would never do that. I said, no, he's a real moral guy, stealing & f**king a married woman, yeah a real angel. She didn't have a comeback to that. But she is still disgusted with my behaviour that week. I told her I was in a messed up state of mind and she said I was just making excuses.
I told her, we've both made mistakes. Let's move forward. Not dwell on the past. We have work to do.
She's not very receptive to me at this point. We hugged a long goodbye and kissed. I kissed her again and told her that I loved her. She said nothing. but did look me in the eyes for a long 5 seconds so I turned and left.
I'll be spending the day with her tomorrow as we have things to do at the RH.
She wants to see all my receipts from the internet dating sites. I'd like to see all her receipts from her exploits with OM, but I'll not bring that up. I'm totally pissed off that she feels so righteous and accused me of bad behaviour. WTF is an A? Good behaviour?
I've gotta cool off.