Detaching is the hardest concept because it is counterintuitive to what you feel you should be doing. I couldnt get it for a long time.
I would tell posters..but, I love him..you want me to just abandon him? Then I finally learned the greatest act of love was for me to let him go. Hard? Hellz yea..but, necessary - for him and for me.
Owning other people's stuff? Oh man, was I good at that. It got to be a running joke in my family. They'd say, "No worries, Ur will take the blame for it." Yea. Not good. I learned to only own my stuff because it made sense after awhile. I am only responsible for my words and actions.
I think trusting and optimism are wonderful traits. Too much of anything may not be good, but, a nice balance is. So, something to work on if you feel you should.
Yea, you are doing the dance for sure. So, when do you think you are going to get tired of that? .
Letting go doesnt mean giving up. It doesnt mean you dont care. It means you care very much. It says that you love him so much that you are willing to let him figure this out on his own. When you do, his actions and words will not affect yours.
S, figure out who you want to be. Try to be her everyday. Try to remember that this was a journey he was meant to go on.
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