Thanks Starsky and wmwb- I know enough from reading these boards to not get my hopes up- she apparently didn't end the A by choice, and there's just as much chance she will go 1) reconcile with OM1, 2) find OM2 or 3) work on the M.

I know I really need to be careful here- appreciate any and all guidance.

Me: 45 W:43
M: 15, T:21
2 Kids- S-14, D-12
A Started: 10/2013
Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014
A changing, not ending
Start DB'ing 9/2014
Same house, same bed