Went for dinner with friends this evening and it was really good to talk unrelated nonsense. the trip gave me a couple of hours in the car to think about what you said labug.

Ive decided I am going to write a letter but for my own benefit (and not send it) and the more I think about it I want to try and make it as balanced as possible so that its not just another stick to beat myself with.

In terms of changes and actions then at the moment:
- I'm trying to reconnect with friends as much as possible
- Im not putting off household chores so I'm doing them when they need doing
- getting back to cooking
- Ive cut the sarcastic humour because I realise it wasnt as humourous as I thought it was.
- going to IC to try and work through my insecurity and 'all about me' syndrome
- trying to validate my Ws feelings more though this one is tough at us goes against how I feel

I think I still need to identify a few more ways to improve myself

Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress