I fell like this is going to turn into a running commentary, but here goes:

W called again. "Just want to let you know I went to OM's house today and told him things are 100% over- told him not to text me or talk to me or contact me ever again." (At the risk of a 2x4 for mindreading, my bet is the fight was because OM is not leaving his GF and W freaked)- I've never seen her throw anything in 21 years so she must have been mightily upset).

I say OK, thanks for the update. Silence. I add "I'm sure things are hard for you but you'll figure it out." W thanks me for giving her time and space to deal with her issues. I say "hang in there" and we end the conversation.

So I guess back to limbo- no real admission of continuing A and no R talk at all. Not that I expected her to beg and plead for me to take her back, but I'd hoped this would lead her to at least mention our R. Probably too soon- time will tell if she decides she wants back in the M or instead just wants out of both the M and the A.

Guess I continue to play detached and compassionate, set up mediation sessions and wait for her to raise any R talk? I know from reading here that there is no point in restating my grounds for working on R, so I assume sitting back and continuing on the same course without offering any olive branches or additional signs of affection is still the right course?

Last edited by Bart42; 09/29/14 05:14 PM.
Me: 45 W:43
M: 15, T:21
2 Kids- S-14, D-12
A Started: 10/2013
Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014
A changing, not ending
Start DB'ing 9/2014
Same house, same bed