[NewLeaf]

Hi ganb8te, I agree with Joe about being comfortable sitting in silence and being able to shut down for short periods of time without being the least bit uncomfortable or feeling anything was amiss. I think in happier times I just didn't think twice about the silence, as we were so comfortable with each other. I do feel the silence now though, and feel the pressure, that I might be missing an opportunity to connect if I can't find something to say to keep the conversation going. I haven't found anything in particular that makes it easier, just wanted to share that I've experienced it too.

It sounds like your packing day went really well, I'm really happy for you! I agree with Lisa on the whole "if" thing. My w hasn't said "if" since the BD in June. I don't even know what I would do at this point if she did.