Newbie Error- LRT too Soon- help!

[Bart42]

Crazy Update to my Sitch:

(Sandi- thanks and I will answer your questions later if they still matter af today's developments.......)

This morning I got a panicked call from the OM (we've only spoken once or twice) pleading for me to help him because "W is over my house and is freaking out and breaking stuff." I said "call the police." He said he can't so then I calmly said "you need to deal with it- it’s your situation and she's not my problem anymore" and hung up. Managed not to call the W or txt her either- radio silence from me.

W leaves me a message at work an hour or so later with her voice cracking to say that "clearly there was a bit of a situation" and we can talk later. She was obviously very shaken. W got me on my cell phone shortly thereafter before I played her message- she was much calmer and said say she was staying home from work today (no mention of "a situation" or talking this time) and I simply said "OK see you at home."

Old me would be madly calling/txting and running home to confront the issue, so one thumbs up for me today.

Should be a very interesting night, especially with the kids around. I see three options 1) She acts like nothing happened and I don’t bring it up 2) she is going to finally admit to some aspect of the A continuing or instead 3) is going to spin some crazy tale about how she was just at OM's apartment to help him with something and GF came home, got the wrong idea and started a fight or something. Either way, I think my attitude is going to be put on your BGP- show little emotion, be empathetic/compassionate but don't say more than "Sounds like a difficult situation for you, but I’m sure you’ll figure out how deal with it.” I will not get pulled into helping her deal with this situation nor will I talk about its impact on our R- I will act “whatever.” I will play it as detached and confident that her situation doesn’t really impact my future. If she starts talking R that will be the wildcard, but I think deflecting will be my best option.
I’m gone the remainder of the week on business, so should be interesting – she will either bring it to a head tonight or goes under the carpet with the rest of the dirty laundry.