it is exceptionally difficult for me to do because I always feel like I need to be moving TOWARD something...
however
nothing NEEDS to be decided right now
It took a long time for your marriage to get to the place it is at...it will take a long time to get it to a better place
please do not count every hill as a place to stop and decide to divorce or not... sometimes you need to remember to breathe.
it is a lot like organizing your house you wouldn't burn it down and move because the closet is a disaster, right? You need to take the time to find all the spots in your marriage that were neglected and cluttered...and then you have to work on cleaning them
that is what GAL is all about...you might not be done cleaning in a day or a month or 4 months...sometimes we shove a lot of stuff in our closets....
